Red Flags & warning signs in the Dating Phase [Case Study]


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If you’ve been on a couple of dates in your life, you’ve probably come up against people who displayed behaviour that made you feel uncomfortable and uneasy, but they weren’t in-your-face enough to actually trouble you.

Our subsconscious/intuition/gut/ whatever you wanna call it sometimes pick up on warning signals or red flags way earlier and faster than our conscious mind.

At times, when we are so emotionally invested and engaged with a person on a date, it can be really difficult to stand back from the situation and evaluate our feelings clearly.

Another thing that can make things tricky is that red flags are sometimes not in your face — they are subtle, they get under your skin, they get in your head, but they aren’t obvious.

It could be a manipulative move on your partner’s part or it could be something you just wouldn’t classify as a warning sign — but it is.

So in this 2-part episode (4&5), I talk about the 12 red flags in the early stages of dating that can help you separate a good partner from a not-so good one.

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Episode 4 (Part 1) | Episode 5 (Part 2)

Originally published at on October 10, 2020.



Sara | AbstractedCollective

I write about relationships, personal growth and mental health. Dreamer. Tea addict. Researcher.